Q&A
Question #1: Why can't people just leave my dog alone?!?
Several times today, my dog has been fed table food/ treats without my permission while my back was turned. Once from our neighbors, from my grandma at lunch and five times from my dad. I thought I made it very clear since the day I brougt my dog home as a puppy that she is not to be fed treats without my permission. I don't want to start bad behavior, also too much human food will cause my dog to throw up due to her small and sensitive stomach. How do I let people know not to feed my dog?
PS- I am watching her all the time, but because it happens so fast that by the time my dog is digesting her treat or human food, it's too late to do anything about it. Help!
PS- I am watching her all the time, but because it happens so fast that by the time my dog is digesting her treat or human food, it's too late to do anything about it. Help!
Question #2: my female chihuahua thinks she is a male dog!?
my sister gave a chihuahua because she couldnt take care of her, the chi is 3yrs old and grew up with a male lab, apparently she adopted the behavior of the older dog, i already have a puppy 5months old which is a chihuahua too, but the problem is that the older one is peeing everywhere marking the territory, she pees every toy the puppy has, her bed, everywhere the other has been, she even raises her leg like a male dog, lol, how can i change this behavior? is it possible? there's a lot more but she peeing everywhere is just too much!
Question #3: How to train a dog to stop barking?
What can you recommend for a dog that won't stop barking due to the following reasons?
I rescued a silky terrier about 2 months ago.
This dog hates to be tied up in the parlor so he barks all day.
He barks inside the crate - non stop. He won't sleep in his crate.
He just wants to be with a human or atleast be free to roam around the house.
I can't let him roam around because he jumps on the table,
goes into the garbage, humps the bedroom pillows or blankets or tries to escape.
I spent half an hour every morning walking him. He gets a kong when I leave the house.
He is never interested in toys at all.
What should I do? My hubby told me that if I can't change his behavior, I need to return him to the shelter this weekend.
I don't want to give up on my Bailey Boy.
Thank you.
I rescued a silky terrier about 2 months ago.
This dog hates to be tied up in the parlor so he barks all day.
He barks inside the crate - non stop. He won't sleep in his crate.
He just wants to be with a human or atleast be free to roam around the house.
I can't let him roam around because he jumps on the table,
goes into the garbage, humps the bedroom pillows or blankets or tries to escape.
I spent half an hour every morning walking him. He gets a kong when I leave the house.
He is never interested in toys at all.
What should I do? My hubby told me that if I can't change his behavior, I need to return him to the shelter this weekend.
I don't want to give up on my Bailey Boy.
Thank you.
Question #4: Need advice about foster kids...counseling?
My husband and I opened our house to a couple of foster children. We adopted a baby from foster care a few years ago but this is WAY different. I guess I was a little nieve about how the system works.
So, I have these 2 kids, a boy and a girl now and the boy has way more issues than I would have ever imagined. At first, we were told that he only have physical abuse issues (as I already have 2 kids of my own and was skeptical about bringing in a child with sexual abuse). After we got them, the social worker told us that the boy did have some sexual abuse but they thought it was second hand abuse. Seeing as how these kids have been in a lot of foster homes over a few short months, we decided to work it out. They promised counseling for the boy and he seemed to be doing okay (I think every child deserves to have a fresh start as this is not his fault...what happened to him). So, now we've had them several months and the honeymoon period is over. I believe he's got more than secondary sexual abuse because he is acting out with his little sister. Nothing too major yet (when I say major, I mean trying to take her clothes off) but he will put her face in his crotch when he is sitting on the couch and she walks over. She is a toddler and doesn't know the difference (he'll hold her head there until you walk over on him and realize what he's doing). I'm trying to keep them separated but it's hard 24/7. I've talked to the social worker about moving him to a home by himself to protect her (and my other kids) but they don't want to separate them. I think a separate home would be good for him because he is very competitive against the other kids, always trying to get them in trouble, telling the little ones to do things that are dangerous or he knows will get them into trouble, the sexual behavior alone is enough for me (as I've had to explain to my 8 year old what a d*ck was because he's never heard that but the boy told him that while playing in the backyard). I've asked for counseling several times for him and I'm always promised counseling but it never happens. Honestly, I think these kids are paying for a slack social worker's performance. I don't want to send them to another home because I feel like the little boy is going to prey on the girl if they don't get him some help and possibly separate them. We don't even have a guardian ad litem yet (and they've been in care for 6 months now). The boy is acting out in school, and using terrible language, and trying to beat my dog up, trying to look at the other kids' private areas....there's just a lot of issues, too many to list. Ok, so my question is this....how do I go about getting counseling for this kid? Do I have to go through the social worker or can I find a counselor myself (since they're slacking)? Also, would you recommend this child be placed alone and who would make that decision? I think he needs to be in a theraputic home so if they have to move them both, I would rather that happen than him not get any help at all for this but I just think she's in danger if they don't do something. Oh, and I don't know if they are going home to their parents or not at this time (if that makes a difference on how you answer...you know, she's going to be his prey anyway if the parents get them back and they're still being neglected). I don't know where to turn so I thought I would ask you guys for suggestions on who to contact to get the ball rolling. I feel like we are being taken advantage of by the social worker but it's the kids who will suffer if someone doesn't look out for them. Thanks!
This is what I'm saying...I don't know where to turn if the social worker is being slack. Who do I turn to next to get what needs to be done for this kid? I finally got a number for the counselor they are suggesting I call. I'm just waiting on her to call me back. Will she help me get him the help he needs? Will she tell the social workers that he needs something more than just regular foster care?
So, I have these 2 kids, a boy and a girl now and the boy has way more issues than I would have ever imagined. At first, we were told that he only have physical abuse issues (as I already have 2 kids of my own and was skeptical about bringing in a child with sexual abuse). After we got them, the social worker told us that the boy did have some sexual abuse but they thought it was second hand abuse. Seeing as how these kids have been in a lot of foster homes over a few short months, we decided to work it out. They promised counseling for the boy and he seemed to be doing okay (I think every child deserves to have a fresh start as this is not his fault...what happened to him). So, now we've had them several months and the honeymoon period is over. I believe he's got more than secondary sexual abuse because he is acting out with his little sister. Nothing too major yet (when I say major, I mean trying to take her clothes off) but he will put her face in his crotch when he is sitting on the couch and she walks over. She is a toddler and doesn't know the difference (he'll hold her head there until you walk over on him and realize what he's doing). I'm trying to keep them separated but it's hard 24/7. I've talked to the social worker about moving him to a home by himself to protect her (and my other kids) but they don't want to separate them. I think a separate home would be good for him because he is very competitive against the other kids, always trying to get them in trouble, telling the little ones to do things that are dangerous or he knows will get them into trouble, the sexual behavior alone is enough for me (as I've had to explain to my 8 year old what a d*ck was because he's never heard that but the boy told him that while playing in the backyard). I've asked for counseling several times for him and I'm always promised counseling but it never happens. Honestly, I think these kids are paying for a slack social worker's performance. I don't want to send them to another home because I feel like the little boy is going to prey on the girl if they don't get him some help and possibly separate them. We don't even have a guardian ad litem yet (and they've been in care for 6 months now). The boy is acting out in school, and using terrible language, and trying to beat my dog up, trying to look at the other kids' private areas....there's just a lot of issues, too many to list. Ok, so my question is this....how do I go about getting counseling for this kid? Do I have to go through the social worker or can I find a counselor myself (since they're slacking)? Also, would you recommend this child be placed alone and who would make that decision? I think he needs to be in a theraputic home so if they have to move them both, I would rather that happen than him not get any help at all for this but I just think she's in danger if they don't do something. Oh, and I don't know if they are going home to their parents or not at this time (if that makes a difference on how you answer...you know, she's going to be his prey anyway if the parents get them back and they're still being neglected). I don't know where to turn so I thought I would ask you guys for suggestions on who to contact to get the ball rolling. I feel like we are being taken advantage of by the social worker but it's the kids who will suffer if someone doesn't look out for them. Thanks!
This is what I'm saying...I don't know where to turn if the social worker is being slack. Who do I turn to next to get what needs to be done for this kid? I finally got a number for the counselor they are suggesting I call. I'm just waiting on her to call me back. Will she help me get him the help he needs? Will she tell the social workers that he needs something more than just regular foster care?
Question #5: Why are Filipino people, the males in particular, so undisciplined?
Partying and being loud well past midnight on weekdays, letting their dogs and roosters make noise all day and night, urinating in public places, pushing and shoving in lineups, pointing and giggling like children at anything that seems even remotely out of the ordinary, boasting and flaunting their limited high quality possessions. The women letting their husbands and children run loose and do whatever they please, scamming, begging, and seducing elderly men online in chat rooms and forums, the men turning to homosexuality more and more and let's not forget repeatedly voting the same idiots into political office over and over again. And to top this all off, they claim to be RELIGIOUS/SPIRITUAL. My apologies, but I thought being a spiritual/religious follower required some semblance of disciplined behaviour.
I know many of you will use a red herring and try and divert this negative attention away from yourselves by stating that "every society behaves badly", but I've experienced lots of different cultural mentalities and the mentality and behaviours of Filipinos are by far the most undisciplined I've ever encountered.
I would like to know what is the major source of this corrupted social mentality. Is it the result of living on a small, crowded island isolated from the rest of the civilised world?
@JKoolJ. Don't get me wrong. I could just as easily give positive examples of Filipino behaviour that would confirm your social cognitive bias towards your own ethnic group. But the problem is there just aren't enough of them compared to the negative ones. And blaming others, which you so eloquently exemplified for me, is another I forgot to list.
@Rose. Yes, two wrongs do not make a right. That's absolutely correct. If you believe my question to be invalid and without basis, then you should not have attempted to answer it in the first place rather than dwell on something apparently meaningless to you. I only point this out for the sake of efficiency in finding an answer to my question.
No glory-seekers, please. Useful answers only. Thanks.
@Rose. This is not a formal logical debate, I said nothing about any "fallacies", and my question does not have an essence. Either you find it valid and meaningful or you don't. Clearly you don't, so I am finished acknowledging your vain pseudo-intellectual exhibitionism from here on as it's useless to me.
I know many of you will use a red herring and try and divert this negative attention away from yourselves by stating that "every society behaves badly", but I've experienced lots of different cultural mentalities and the mentality and behaviours of Filipinos are by far the most undisciplined I've ever encountered.
I would like to know what is the major source of this corrupted social mentality. Is it the result of living on a small, crowded island isolated from the rest of the civilised world?
@JKoolJ. Don't get me wrong. I could just as easily give positive examples of Filipino behaviour that would confirm your social cognitive bias towards your own ethnic group. But the problem is there just aren't enough of them compared to the negative ones. And blaming others, which you so eloquently exemplified for me, is another I forgot to list.
@Rose. Yes, two wrongs do not make a right. That's absolutely correct. If you believe my question to be invalid and without basis, then you should not have attempted to answer it in the first place rather than dwell on something apparently meaningless to you. I only point this out for the sake of efficiency in finding an answer to my question.
No glory-seekers, please. Useful answers only. Thanks.
@Rose. This is not a formal logical debate, I said nothing about any "fallacies", and my question does not have an essence. Either you find it valid and meaningful or you don't. Clearly you don't, so I am finished acknowledging your vain pseudo-intellectual exhibitionism from here on as it's useless to me.
Question #6: Impacting dog's behavior by how it's treated as a puppy?
I've heard some people say that they carried their dog around a lot as a puppy and now it always wants to be on them. When I get my puppy, will that really work? Because I actually want her to be like that. She's half chihuahua, which I know do like to cuddle, but also half pom, which I know aren't always cuddle-bugs, plus she has an almost total pomeranian coat. I chose this particular mix for longevity reasons so I'm sure I DO want to stick with this breed, cuddly or not, and of course I'll still be getting this particular puppy and loving her just as much no matter how she acts, but if I can impact it, that would be great
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